The Experience
Improve your Life through Systemic Family Constellations work
A very efficient and powerful way to improve all the aspects of your life – personal and organizational, social.
I would like to begin this presentation of the systemic family constellations therapy method by briefly explaining its name.
Why constellations?
The method, which emerged in the early 90s in Germany, was founded by Bert Hellinger – I shall come back later to say a few words about Bert Hellinger as well; the initial name of this method in Germany was “the spatial arrangement of the family”. The English translation was meant to be more evocative. This is how the analogy was made between family and “constellations”. The word constellations is there to remind us that the stars in the universe are positioned in a certain way, they have their own place, their own motion and that they are connected, in the sense that they are related to each other, with the consequence that any celestial body influences all the other celestial bodies.
This is true for everyone of us. In our families, we have our unique place, we are interconnected and whatever happens to a family member has an impact on all the other family members.
Why systemic?
You probably have already noticed that in our world, nowadays, everything is very well organise and structured, based on systems that work in an interconnected way. Let’s take, for instance, our body, which is a highly complex system, formed of subsystems working together in a way that the science is still striving to understand, still it’s working so naturally and in an amazing way!
Like the family itself, it’s a very well structured system, in which everyone has its own special and unique place. This system, as any other system, has its own rules and a self-regulating tendency in case of malfunction and does this in a natural, normal, deep and unconscious way, so that the energies regain their balance, thus allowing Love and Life to flow freely towards the future generations.
What are family constellations?
The systemic family constellations are a very effective way to find solutions to specific challenges, situations that we encounter in all the areas of our lives – mental health, physical health, relationships, profession etc.
They are a practical method to bring the hidden family dynamics out to light, from the unconscious mind.
The family constellations method addresses the “family soul” and the soul of the individual, it’s a therapeutic method which, by encouraging the healing potential and the deep contact with our families, those who lived before us, is proving increasingly efficient and is increasingly demanded and used.
Sometimes we may feel an increasing pressure affecting our daily life and we think that pressure comes from outside.
We may start noticing in our life certain patterns, or recurrent financial difficulties that tend to be repeated by generation after generation, situations which entrap us like a vicious circle, recurrent failures, dysfunctional relationships with people around us, maybe overweight issues, physical and/or psychic diseases, the (apparent) impossibility to conceive a child, sexual dysfunctions, addictions, accidents, suicidal acts etc. Of course, there can be happy aspects that may be transmitted, such as talents, gifts, beneficial situations, the ease to live and make things happen.
This kind of problems may appear in the life of one person (or more) in a family, triggered by important events impacting the family system, such as trauma, divorce, separations, loss of people close to us, family secrets, tragic war-related experiences etc. Internationally, this method is used in many areas of the human activities in education establishments, health institutions, penitentiaries, or various social services, organisations, legal institutions etc. Studies showed that this has been the fastest spreading and accepted working method and, moreover, the number of men practicing it and resorting to it is considerably higher compared to other therapies. This is because, as you will find out from our discussion, by the way that this works, we are recognized, respected, validated for what we are, in the deepest way possible.
Issues that we can work on using Systemic Family Constellations
What dysfunctions can we address and balance by working with the systemic family constellations?
We can address:
professional difficulties;
organizational issues;
financial difficulties;
life patterns repeated by more generations;
dysfunctional relationships;
health issues – mental and physical conditions;
addictions;
abuse (emotional, physical, sexual);
premature death / mourning;
miscarriages;
adoptions;
(apparent) lack of ability to conceive;
trauma, tragic life experiences;
war trauma etc.
Regarding war trauma, in practicing family constellations and trans-generational psychology, it has been noticed that the trauma of the generations behind us that took part in wars can be healed in the present times – it took time and a few more generations for the pain to diminish and for the energy to grow weaker and allow us to work on the problems, to be able to look, to understand, to accept, to free ourselves and restore the balance.
What are we carry on from our families?
Our family is an energy field that contains us, each and every one of us, in our unique position, since the time of our birth. This causes:
the capacity to be happy,
the freedom to choose,
the success in achieving our goals,
the ability to preserve healthy relationships,
our health,
our wellbeing etc.
In addition to the specific genetic inheritance, we receive from our family an inheritance that is different in nature:
we receive life programs,
behavioral patterns,
faith systems
We unwittingly carry those for a long time and more often than not we pass them on to our children, or that maybe, at some point in time, we become aware and start to look for solutions to understand, accept, change this inheritance in order to free ourselves and free the ones who will come to this world after us.
Systemic constellations give us the opportunity to free our unconscious mind from these programs, patterns, faith systems, inheritance that we take over from our ancestors, and also to understand them at a deep level and find a way out, a solution that can bring peace to us and to our families
How does a Family Constellations session work?
A Family Constellations workshop can be described as a deep, meditative experience, in which we connect with a higher power, bigger than us, the Soul of the family; and we let this power take over peacefully and softly. We abandon all intentions, we free ourselves from all the thoughts, assumptions, desires, we allow ourselves to feel all the sensations that grow in our bodies and we let ourselves guided, carried away by the movement that comes from beyond us.
The key here is: “the minimum intervention”/ “acceptance of what seems to come out” into the light/in the conscious mind from the quantic/morphia/ knowledge field because now a different power is working, which is bigger than all of us, the Soul/Conscience of the Family/Community/People etc. – depending on what we are working on.
The group involves a facilitator and more participants, sitting in circle. Some of them may wish to work on their constellation, others will be in representation for persons or concepts that we decide to work on, while others may only attend from the sidelines.
Regardless of how we are positioned in a group during a family constellation workshop, we will have a lot to receive and we will realize, sooner or later, that some of our problems were solved by the simple fact that we attended a constellation workshop.
Participants working on their constellation come with a problem that they describe briefly – one or two sentences and only factually, to the group. Usually these are problems dating way back, affecting the life of the person in question and resisting all attempts to solve the problem that that person may have made.
In the beginning of a Family Constellation, in an intuitive way, the client chooses among the other participants the ones who will represent his/her family members and one person who will play his/her role. Afterwards, the client will arrange those persons based on the relationships among them, without elaborating on this, relying on how the client “feels” his/her role in the family at that very moment. Despite the fact that the chosen participants don’t know the people they represent, or the one who is there at that very moment, they become a living model of the initial family system.
The representing persons let themselves being moved around by the field of knowledge, they only do what they feel, very slowly, in silence. In constellations we look at the members of a family and the way that these relationships influence the life of all the family members.
When we work like this, even small gestures can carry valuable information. Words are scarce during the working session and this is why they become very powerful. When the family members are placed in relationship with one another, in a circle, (made by the rest of participants who are sitting on chairs or on the floor) a phenomenon occurs. The representatives start to notice emotions and thoughts reflecting the emotions and thoughts of the actual family members.
Than, things start to be more and more obvious/clear, the systemic entanglement is revealed, another representative or more representative may join in, the system is re-arranged in compliance with the orders of love and some healing words are spoken. Not just any words. These are healing statements which allow us to speak the language of the soul in ways that are free us and those surrounding us – friends, lovers, spouses, dear persons, family, colleagues.
According to Bert Hellinger’s systemic therapy, the solution that supports the life of a family appears when each of the system members find their rightful place in the family, assuming their role in life, taking care of themselves and respecting the destiny of others.
By doing this, we will free the ones who follow, our children and grand-children, from the obligation of restoring the family balance and harmony to let the love flow towards the future generations and perpetuate life.
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About Laura
Laura Ghita is an experienced psychotherapist, empowering individuals, families and groups through their growth journey, while using the most appropriate methods and tools for every particular case. As a Systemic Family Constellations Facilitator Laura assists individuals in a very effective and profound way to find solutions to specific challenges in all areas of live – personal, relationships, health, profession etc.
Laura is a MD Psychologyst and a Psychotherapiest licensed in Clinical Hypnosis and Ericksonian therapy. She also received extensive training programms in Art Therapy, Transpersonal Psychotherapy, Collaborative Brief Therapy, Metaphoric association cards, Time Line Healing, Systemic Family and Organizational Constellation. Laura is a licenced NLP Coach.